We’ve all known them at some point in our lives. Usually it’s in junior high or high school and there’s usually two types of mean girls: 1. Blatantly mean: openly arrogant and snotty, it’s very clear that they think they are better than everyone else and they never hesitate to tell you that. 2. Sneaky mean: these are the ones that are over the top super sweet on the surface, projecting an image of helpfulness and kindness while quietly planning games, manipulations, and hurtful behaviors to get what they want. Image is as equally important to them as getting what they want is.
Although the outward behavior varies the motivating factor is the same and that is the belief that the world revolves around them and they will do whatever they need to do to get what they want, regardless of who they hurt in the process. To them nobody else’s feelings matter and they will bully, manipulate, and trample over whomever they have to in order to get what they want.
You would think that as people get older and evolve that they would lose these toxic traits but unfortunately that’s not true. Some people are apparently totally incapable of developing real compassion and true empathy for others.
Are they a product of their environment growing up? Was their home life toxic? Or did they have everything handed to them? Or were they just born with a glitch in their system, in their brain, in their heart? Who knows. The point is that they are out there at all ages and all walks of life and you may cross their path at any time.
The important thing to know and to always remember is that you don’t deserve to be treated badly EVER and you do not have to take anybody’s crappy behavior! How other people behave and treat you is a reflection of their character, NOT YOURS! Do not take that meanness into your head, your heart, your soul. Know your worth. Know what you deserve. Don’t waste your energy worrying about other people’s intentions or behaviors.
Your feelings matter. Your thoughts and opinions matter. Your dreams matter. You matter! So say a prayer for them (these types need it the most) and tell God thank you that you’re not like that. Then walk away, ignore them, cut them out of your life. Do whatever you need to do to keep your peace and keep being your beautiful self. Your life will be better for it.
